Finley's Footprints

It is an interesting process – grieving.  Or maybe it is just life.  Today I have been thinking about other people.  I have been shown the consequences of lying through other peoples actions.  Of course it produces a response in me, and a consideration to my way of being for the future.

Since losing my baby I have discovered whole communities of people who have been through the same thing, or similar.  These groups of people have undoubtedly been a great source of support for me.  However recently I have discovered they also mirror society as a whole. Some people give unconditionally, some people are always happy and some people lie.  It amazes me but there are actually people out there who lie about having lost a child.  They actually want to be angel mummies.  I will keep my thoughts on this to myself, and allow you to consider this.

My thoughts today are with an online friend who has lost.  She has been looking for support as she is very low.  I am absolutely disgusted to find out that instead of supporting her where possible, people have chosen to accuse this person of being a fake.  She has had to focus on proving that she has lost her babies.  A wonderful person who is already vulnerable is now made lower because people do not trust in what she has said.

I am concerned about this, why should people have to prove they have lost their baby in order to receieve support, why is support conditional.  If you were so low, and so alone and found the courage to reach out and people just attacked you, accusing you of lying, what would that do?  It could happen to anyone of us. What happens when you need help yourself and it is not present?

What will you choose to do when presented with someone – stranger or friend who needs your support?